Adult Sex Ed

An Open Letter to Sex Bloggers & Sex Educators About #AdultSexEdMonth

AGWDM sexy typewriterDear Sex Bloggers and Sex Educators,

I started #AdultSexEdMonth back in June 2013, about eight months after I started this blog. As I was preparing for it, I only knew a handful of sex bloggers and sex educators. I asked them to give me some suggestions of who else I could contact to participate in #AdultSexEdMonth and get it rolling in the way imagined.

Holy cow! I had no idea that there were so many sex bloggers and sex educators. When I started checking out their blogs and websites, I was amazed and overblown by the talent and knowledge they had. It was the kind of stuff I had been looking for whenever I had to do some research for blog article about topics that went beyond my realm of knowledge. A lot of it was better than the sources I came across when I Googled search terms – Web MD, Men’s Health, Cosmo (*eyeroll* *gag*). And it wasn’t like I didn’t try to find other sex bloggers on Facebook and Twitter. It became another reason why I felt we needed #AdultSexEdMonth.

Now this is the part where I’m gonna get a little pissy. Okay … a LOT pissy.

There have been a number of sex bloggers and sex educators I’ve contacted about #AdultSexEdMonth over the past couple of years. They’ve outright ignored emails and social media messages asking them to get involved. Hell, they’ve ignored me when I’ve jumped in on a public social media conversation or when I’ve written about them. Sometimes, it makes me feel like I’m in the third grade again. I didn’t get an invitation to play in their sandbox, and when I showed up, they acted as if I was invisible.

Nothing irks me more than to sit on the periphery of the sandbox and read and listen to sex-positive people write, share and discuss their each other’s excellent and credible sex blog posts and articles, roll their eyes, and say: “I wish more people know about … how to be more sex-positive, knew how to talk about sex, (insert a kink or sex topic of your choice). It’s not like the information and education about sex for adults isn’t out there – especially when you’re creating the content. You’re just too busy talking about this amongst your inner circle — the same people who have your sense of knowledge and shared beliefs and attitudes about sex. This shit just can’t get more ironic.

I’m pretty sure there are a number of you who refuse to take part in #AdultSexEdMonth because you think this is a Bobbie Morgan project and that I’m just promoting myself. That assumption is so far from the truth. Yeah, #AdultSexEdMonth is my passion project and I talk the shit up about it every chance I get … and I always mention that it’s a tremendous group effort. I will not and cannot take credit for everything others do to get sex educational information out in social media, especially when it’s content they’re not self-promoting (nothing wrong with that) or didn’t create.

Since most of you I’m talking about already tweet, RT, post and share what you create, read, watch and listen to on social media, just add the fucking #AdultSexEdMonth hashtag at the end of the posts. It’s only 16 extra goddam keystrokes. You’ve probably already written a 16-word comment to go along with your social media post. What’s three more words rolled into one? Don’t do it because I told you to or threw a hissy fit. You don’t even have to like me for all I fucking care. The more way we broaden our social media reach with the #AdultSexEdMonth hashtag, the more likely someone who wants or needs this information gets it.

If you’re a sex blogger who thinks people should come looking for you instead of the other way around, you’re delusional. You’re not as much of a BFD as you think you are. Like I said, I didn’t know who you were before I started the first #AdultSexEdMonth. Or if you who just doen’t need more readers or page views on your blog, please explain that logic to me. I can’t think of a single blogger who isn’t egotistical or is looking to be the center of someone else’s attention for 100 or 1,000 words. Otherwise, why blog?

I’ve learned a lot during the past two #AdultSexEdMonths. I’ve met some incredibly wonderful sex bloggers and educators. I’ve also met and continue to stay in touch with so many new readers whom I would have never known if it weren’t for #AdultSexEdMonth. I can’t thank you enough or give you a big enough hug to thank you for everything you’ve done to make #AdultSexEdMonth possible this year and in the past. Some of you have even used #AdultSexEdMonth for your own projects. So kickass.

Okay … I’m done crabbin’, bitchin’ and complainin’. It’s time to pour myself a cocktail so I can wind down and get the fuck back to work and #AdultSexEdMonth.