Casual & Kinky – When Is The Right Time To Reveal Your True Nature?

You’ve met a really great guy or gal. So when do you let that person in on your sexy secret – like your fetish, that you like to dominate or be dominated, or that you’d like to explore playing with other couples?

Let Your Partner Know Before You Meet
AGWDM kinky 1If you’re doing the online dating thing on a site like Casual Dating Australia (casualdatingaustralia.com.au), include your kink or fetish in your profile. It’s a great conversation starter, especially if the other person has the same kink or fetish.

My big piece of advice is to include your level of experience with your kinky interest. Is it something that’s been part of your life for a number of years or is it a curiosity you want to try just once? Being clear about your level experience will help prospective partners decide if they’re compatible. Sometimes it won’t. You probably know these types. They message you like you’re an item to check off their bucket list than a person. Or all they want to do is talk about your kink or fetish but have no intention of meeting. If you can’t close a deal to meet within a week, move on.

 

Bring it Up Before You Hit the Bed
AGWDM kinky 2I know, I talk about having that big serious sex conversation before you get naked with someone for the first time ALL THE TIME, but it’s so important. Disclosing your kink or fetish is just as important as sharing your sexual history, safer sex practices and relationship boundaries. This way, your partner knows what he or she is getting into with you and can fully consent, and you reduce the risk of disappointment or wasting your time before the two of you get involved.

Breaking the News to a Long-Term Partner
This can be a toughie, especially if the two of you don’t talk about sex often. My advice is to bring up a kink or fetish you’ve always had or is a new discovery as an open-ended question. Tell your partner something like, “Hey, I read something about (your secret interest, kink or fetish). What do you think about that?” It gives you and your partner a chance to ease into the conversation by keeping the topic detached and objective.

Can You Leverage Discretion?
AGWDM kinky 3Before you share your kinky desires with anyone, ask yourself if you can trust them with this information. Does this person have a track record of sharing everything about their lives and the people in their lives on Facebook and Twitter? Do they publicly blast their ex to everyone who will listen to them? I’ve known a few people that have had their careers, families and finances destroyed by someone else who spoke out of turn out of anger or even by an innocent slip of the tongue about their private side. If you’re getting to know someone new, it might be helpful to know something about their personal life they wouldn’t want the world to know. Not that I suggest that you use that information in a nefarious way, but it will assure what you share with them will be held in confidence.

I know that bringing up your kinky side to your partner can be can be a scary experience, but it has to be done. If your partner is receptive, excellent! If you get shot down, moving on to a better prospective partner isn’t a bad thing, right?

For more reading about casual dating, check out Casual Dating to a Serious Relationship – How it’s Done
(casualdatingaustralia.com.au/casual-dating-to-a-serious-relationship-how-its-done).

This post is brought to you by Casual Dating Australia (casualdatingaustralia.com.au). Information and opinions about this topic are genuinely my own.

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Bobbie Morgan is the beditor-in-chief of A Good Woman's Dirty Mind. When she's not blogging or having the best sex ever, she's putting out writing and social media services for adult businesses. Use the contact link to reach her by email.

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