Adult Sex Ed

Female Ejaculation: It’s #notpee and it’s not an Orgasm

mermaid gushingOh, for the bazillionth time, medical experts don’t know what the fuck they’re talking about when it comes to female ejaculation.

When I mentioned the latest study in Sex Stories We Love in Kinkly last week that claimed that female ejaculation was urine, I left the story that I mentioned about the to stand on its own because I respect the knowledge and opinions of Dr Justin Lehmiller. I felt it was my role as a journalist to be objective not to interject my opinion or personal experience. I also wanted to see what kind of discussion would ensue.

I felt that I already wrote about female ejaculation plenty of times. (Read: Why We Don’t Know Much About Female Ejaculation, but This is What I do Know From Personal Experience and Why is Gushing/Female Ejaculation Such a Mystery?) I thought sharing these articles on my social media channels might help shine some real-life truth to the topic.

Then I came upon an article about this topic in Cosmo, which is read by millions of women and couldn’t have gotten the message more wrong.

Women Across the Internet Defend Their Orgasms With #NotPee

First of all, female ejaculation and orgasms are two entirely different things. Female ejaculation happens independently of orgasms. They can occur simultaneously, but that happens about as often as two partners having simultaneous orgasms.

In my experience, I have no warning that I’m going to ejaculate. It just happens. Sometimes it’s a little squirt that I’m unaware of when it happens. Sometimes it comes out like a hot gush of watery fluid. It can happen once or two or three times during aggressive fingering or penetrative sex. It comes out the vagina, and not the urethra, and can drench my lover’s fingers or penis. Sometimes I feel pressure on my G-spot before I ejaculate. A lot of times I leave behind a two- to three-foot wide wet spot on the bed that soaks through the sheets and mattress pad into the mattress. It’s odorless and colorless. Most importantly, I know what a full bladder feels like and I know what it feels like to pee. I have 48 years of experience with those things.

Then Costwitpolitan included a video of Dr. Drew Pinsky who talked about this study on his show on HLN. Dr. Drew will talk out of his ass about just about anything. After all, he’s an internist who made a name for himself by publicly treating exploiting D-list celebrities for their substance abuse issues for entertainment on VH-fucking-1. That’s like going to see a neurologist for a rectal exam — head up the ass.