I’ve been remiss in not following through with my conversation about #AdultSexEdMonth on Getting Intimate with Dr. Sandra LaMorgese last Tuesday. It’s just been that crazy of a month. It’s certainly not because it wasn’t a great conversation and great show. It was!
Aside from talking about #AdultSexEdMonth, why and how it got started, and some of the most popular topics, Sandra, is always really good at throwing out questions out of left field that lead to some great conversations.
“I have to ask you this,” she said. “Are you just as sick as I am about guys private messaging you about their hard cocks and what they want to do with us and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Some men get the impression that if a woman is sexy and talks about sexuality, there are no barriers.”
This is a topic that could have gone on for the whole two hours of the show. It doesn’t happen to me that often. About 50% of the people who follow my blog are men, and almost all of them want comment and chat about sex in very intelligent and respectful ways. When guys come out of the blue expecting me to be a free and on-demand sex chat woman, I’m always quick to redirect the conversation or I just block them. I just don’t have time, tolerance or patience for that kind of shit and rudeness.
But after being online for the past 19 years, I know this happens often. There’s a thinking that since this is “just the Internet” that there aren’t real women with real feelings on the other side of the monitor. There’s a sense of false sense of bravery that comes with being anonymous – anything goes. When I was exploring my submissive side almost 20 years ago, there was one local guy who said he wanted to meet me, cuff me to a shower rod, and paddle and whip me until I got welts, bruises and bled. I couldn’t block him fast enough. I almost considered contacting the police to ask them to keep an eye on my house whenever they drove by. (The police department was at the other end of my block.)
This crap just doesn’t come from guys in their late teens and early 20’s who have fantasies and hormones on fire and don’t know how to handle them. This kind of crap comes from guys in their 30’s, 40’s (like the guy I just mentioned) and 50’s, too.
Women who enjoy and like to talk about sex come from all different walks of life. Despite popular belief from lots of men (and women, too), women like this aren’t all categorically women with no moral compass. Even then, treating women like this says just as little about the people who treat them this way. If you get a chance to listen to Sandra’s show, you’ll see that she’s a very attractive, refined and intelligent woman. Off the top of my head, several other women come to mind — Joan Price, Walker Thornton, Erica Jagger.
Sandra also asked me and her co-hosts, Carolynn Mincin and Nicole Greib, what we thought of sex robots.
Now I’m all about sex toys. I use them and sell them. But to me, sex robots are taking things wayyyy too far, especially when Sandra mentioned that some of them cost about $30K, can have conversations with you, and that some guys have relationships with them.
It’s bad enough that we have the Internet that has reduced the way we talk about to and others about sex as being “just the Internet”. But has technology gone that far in disconnecting people from other human beings? Has yesterday’s science fiction turned into today’s science reality?
I won’t deny that there are times when you just have to get off to blow off tension and pent-up urges. But at the core of really great sex, it all comes down to communication, human touch and all of those silly, crazy and wild feelings and emotions that come with connecting with a real, live human being. It doesn’t matter if this person is a one-time hookup partner or someone you’ve been married to for decades.
I’ve come to really like Sandra over the past year when I first got in touch with her, of at all times, during #AdultSexEdMonth. I’m also enjoying her new radio show which can be heard on Gyroscope Radio on Tuesdays from 7-9 p.m. Eastern Time. As a pro Domme, yes, she talks about sex a lot, but also has a lot of great guests who discuss other things, too, like current events, culture, music and style. Her show has fast become my new ear candy. Shows like this are like shoes … you can never have too many favorites!