Wow! It’s been three years since I put up my first post on A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind!
When I put up my first post, I had no intention of making it one of the Web’s most popular sex blogs. (See No. 10 on this list.) It was just going to be a placeholder for my erotic short stories. Then I got the itch to repurpose some stories that I had written for other clients. Then I started writing about some of the wonderful stories I thought were worth sharing about the great sex and the incredible relationship my lover Parrot and I had … and still have today.
I remember being absolutely blown away at the end of the first day of my blog. I had 35 page views! Who were these people and how did they find me? I probably only had about 65 or 70 people following me on Twitter (@GoodDirtyWoman). I wasn’t on Facebook, Pinterest or Tumblr at that time.
I quickly got to know some of my readers. I was very surprised how many women there were like me, women who were sexually evolved and enjoyed, embraced and reveled in their eros. For years, I thought I was an oddity. None of my female friends were open about sexuality. The few who now know that I write a sex blog still aren’t. I love being part of this sexual sisterhood and connecting with women who are just like me!
I was amazed to find that just as many men as women were reading my blog. They weren’t horndog men; they were, as I like to call them, gentlemen pervs. They were men who were a lot like Parrot; men who truly loved and respected women whether they were their wives, girlfriends or women in general. Even though I have a lot of great male friends who are completely in the friend zone, guys like them were not usually like a lot of men I dated until Parrot and I reconnected over 3½ years ago.
I had no idea that I was filling a niche for people like Parrot and me. If you were to meet us at a party, at breakfast at a B&B, or having cocktails at the bar while waiting for a table for dinner at a restaurant, you would never suspect that I was a sex blogger and he was the super sexy and chivalrous muse behind it. You’d think that we were a typical but very conversational and friendly suburban middle-age couple. We probably wouldn’t even pass for one of those couples who smile at each other and hold hands in those boner pill ads. (Although we do smile at each other a lot. How can we not?)
Over the next several months, tens of page views a day turned into hundreds and then eventually thousands a day. By the end of the first year of my blog, I was named No. 10 on Kinkly’s first list of its Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes. Talk about mind blown to be included among so many exceptional bloggers and sexperts who do so much to promote sex-positivity in our culture!
I also never imagined that blogging about sex would lead me to work outside of mainstream PR, content writing/management and social media consulting and into the adult industry. I’m sure you’re probably thinking, “I’d love to have that job!” Indeed, I do love the work that I do! I can’t think of anyone who hasn’t been absolutely fun and fabulous to work with. People in the adult industries are far more friendlier, respectful to people they work with, and have far better business ethics and practices than a lot of mainstream companies and clients I have worked for in the past. Perhaps corporate America should look into sexual wellness plans?
Being the beditor-in-chief of A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind has been an all-around life changing experience in such profound ways. It’s been the inspiration to lead my big yearly pet passion project every June over the past three years, #AdultSexEdMonth. I started it for so many reasons, but the No. 1 reason is that I’m so passionate about adults having easy-to-find access to every aspect of sex and sexuality. I am so grateful to have had so many sex-positive people to get behind this campaign every year!
So what’s in the future for me and A Good Woman’s Dirty Mind? I would love to have the opportunity to get out from behind the blog and do some public speaking, educating and advocating. Right now, I don’t have money in my budget to travel to do those things and it’s not like Detroit is a hub for adult industry events. Somehow, I have to find a way to make my dream my plan. I’m sure I will!
As far as how I’m celebrating today, I’m sure it will be like any other day. I could say it will be deferred for another two weeks when Parrot and I get to spend some time with each other, but I’m sure the time we’ll spend together will be like all of the other times we’ve spent together over these past few years. It will be bigger and more special than any holiday or special occasion.
And whoever came up with the phrase “Ain’t life grand?” had no idea what that would mean!