How to Find a Casual Sex Partner Without Sounding Like a Horndog or an Ass

AGWDM want some of my sausageI got an email the other day from a reader who is looking for a casual sex partner on a site like Casual Sex Cardiff (http://casualsexcardiff.co.uk) or Casual Sex Coventry (http://casualsexcoventry.com). He’s a polite, proper and polite gentleman who really likes, respects and enjoys the companionship of women but he doesn’t want to turn them off by sounding like a stereotypical horndog or ass.

“Yeah, I am horny,” he writes, “but only behind closed doors.”

I totally get where this guy is coming from. There are a lot of guys out there whose approaches and intentions give guys like him a bad reputation. And having a casual sex partner doesn’t always mean that a guy is just looking for a sex-on-demand partner to have wild, freaky and nasty sex and then shove her out the door after he comes.

AGWDM boy you went full horndogCasual sex can be a lot like great sex itself – it’s about enjoying the journey – fun, laughter, companionship and friendship — without focusing on the goal you don’t have in mind – commitment, mandates and obligations that come with it. It’s fun for the sake of fun.

First of all, get it out of your mind what you think casual sex is all about. Casual sex can mean different things to different people. It’s quite possible to have a long-term relationship or affair with someone if neither one of you has a goal of living together or marriage. You could be at a point in your life when you’ve said, “Been there, done that” to marriage or living together. Those kinds of relationships can be complicated if you travel a lot for work, own your own home, have kids living with you, or if there are tax or alimony advantages to not being married or living together. Plus, you can be someone like me who enjoys their autonomy.

AGWDM is your body from mcdonaldsThe most important thing to do when approaching women on casual sex websites is give a woman an idea of the kind of person you are in your profile – be yourself. A woman has to like a man before she has any interest in having sex with him. Give her an idea of what kind of job you have or your interests or hobbies. Even though you may not do these things together, at least you have something in common. Always remember that sex of any kind requires two minds and personalities, just not an available body.

In the past, a lot of guys have been offended that I prefer being with older, college-educated professional men. It’s not a slam against guys who aren’t any of those things, but it’s important for me to connect with men on an intellectual or lifestyle level, even when it comes to sex.

AGWDM damn girlMen should never be rude, lewd and crude when it comes to talking about sex. Ease into talking about things like turn-ons, sexual preferences and fantasies. I know this comes as a shock to some guys who think, “Hey! She’s on a sex dating site. What in the hell is wrong with her?”

Let me explain…

Some people find it hard to talk about sex, don’t like to talk about sex in a graphic way, or reveal personal things about themselves right off the bat until they feel comfortable with someone. Don’t just talk; be a good listener. Ease into the subject of sex. If a woman evades answering questions, back off a bit. If the conversation is fun, comfortable and lively, you’ll know it when it happens.

Most importantly, talk to, text and treat women you’re getting to know on casual sex dating sites like you would any other woman. You wouldn’t tell a waitress at a restaurant or cashier at the grocery store, “Nice tits!” unless she’s showing them off. A lot of guys take on this alter ego as if they’re great lovers or seducers when they approach women on casual sex dating sites. It’s a total turn-off to women. When you’re yourself, you’re more approachable, she’ll get an honest and accurate representation of what kind of guy you really are when you meet in person, and it will take the nervousness out of meeting a woman in person.

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