Adult Sex Ed

How to Give the Best Blow Job Ever

I love going down on my man. I love the excitement on his face and in his eyes the moment I start crawling backward to situate myself between his legs. I love the way he feels like he’s floating when my hands stroke every contour of his shaft as if I’m worshipping it. I love hearing that first almost silent “Ahh!” the moment the lip of my tongue swirls around the smooth and rounded tip of his cock. I love the sound of his deep sigh the first time my lips slide down his shaft. I love the way his body tightens and wriggles when my mouth takes him in like a sliding suction cup. I love the way he sounds surprised when I take as much of his cock in my mouth as I can. I love to hear his moans and groans and the way his body feels like it’s going to blow up right before he climaxes and it’s my cue to suck and pull and squeeze my mouth around his cock harder and faster until he blasts away.

I know, there are a lot of “I loves” in describing what I enjoy about giving my man head. With him, performing oral sex is like interactive performance art of the highest order. It’s not just about my technique or my enthusiasm; it’s about the feedback that bounces off of each of us and amplifies and intensifies every action more than the last. His audible and physical cues give me the direction I need to give him what he wants to feel and what I need to do or do more of to bring him to the next level. If he didn’t participate in receiving the way he does, I’d never have the kind of enjoyment in and enthusiasm for blowing him the way I do.

I wish I could give the definitive guide on how to give the best blow job ever. Since every man is different, I asked some men on Twitter and on one of the message boards on Literotica to tell me what they enjoy most about blow jobs.

Lips covering the teeth

Active, slow and sensual tongue moves

A hand that glides and rotates around shaft

Holding the base of the shaft

Cupping the balls

Pressing on perineum

Moaning while swallowing

A tough gag reflex while deep throating

A swirling tongue across the head

Tight suction

Bobbing head up and down

Humming and moaning, especially for the vibration

Resting your hands on his thighs

Gently massaging, licking and/or sucking his balls

Sticking a finger or dildo up his ass

If he’s squirming and trying to hump your face, do more of whatever you’re doing

Gazing up into a man’s eyes as you’re giving him head

Slow mouth action up and down with one hand stroking the shaft gently and the other playing with the balls and ass

Be prepared for the money shot (Be ready to swallow, let him come on you, or let him blast his cum in the air.)

Completion (In other words, don’t quit or peter out before he’s had a chance to come.)

Several of the men said one of the things they enjoy most is a woman (or man) who enjoys giving oral sex. Here’s where my advice comes in … If you want your partner to enjoy what she or he is doing, don’t just sit or lay there. Nothing makes a blow job feel like a job quite than if a receiver isn’t “there.”

Likewise, givers, listen to and pay attention to his cues, and be an animal and not a machine.