Adult Sex Ed

Ms. Q & A: Is it Weird That He Likes His Nipples Fondled?

Dear Ms. Q,

I’m a straight male in my mid-30’s and I think I have something strange going on with me: I like having my nipples played with. Swear to God, I could have them pinched and sucked on all day long, but I’m afraid of asking a woman to do it for me. It just seems weird, and no offense, gay. I mean, breasts and nipples are something to be played with on women. I mean, what straight guy doesn’t’ like boobs? I tried looking up information on this, and even Wikipedia says that men’s nipples don’t have an effect on being sexually turned on.

Is there something wrong with my body? Is there something wrong with the way my hormones are wired?

Nick the Nipple Man

Dear Nick,

Rest assured your heterosexual man card is fully intact.

Before I go on to say how come and why it’s perfectly OK for men to be turned on by nipple stimulation, I’m not the only person to say the information on the difference between men’s and women’s nipples found in the Wikipedia article is absolutely full of shit. Furthermore, I don’t believe that the sensitivity of women’s nipples has as much to do with female hormones, as well.

I wish I could find some credible documentation to back up or dispute my claims, but let’s say that male erotic nipple stimulation appears to be one of those areas of human sexual physiology that’s woefully understudied and under researched. However, I can say that I know from first-hand experience that you’re not the only straight guy who likes his nipples pinched and tweaked.

Whether nipples are on a man’s or woman’s breasts, they have the same amount of tightly-packed nerve endings. When you’re sexually aroused — aside from the head of your cock, balls, and anus — a number of areas of the body that have high concentration of nerve endings at the top of the skin also become more sensitive to touch like the small of the back, behind the knees, and the undersides of the arms.

Keep in mind that most men and women get sexual pleasure by having their nipples played with during sex, but not everyone. It’s just one of those things like why some people are ticklish and some are not.

And, yeah, I understand your homo-erotic fears. Like most men, you appreciate a nice set of ta-tas on a woman. I’m sure that you get more enjoyment out of touching, squeezing, fondling and pinching a woman’s breasts more than she enjoys having them played with. Also, I can assume that you don’t get sexually aroused by men’s nipples when you’re at the beach or the gym, right?

If you have a sex partner, don’t be afraid to tell her that you want your nipples played with while you’re having sex. Ask her to play with them, pull on them, bite them. I’m sure almost all women will find being asked to play with their man’s nipples is probably the least weird or offensive thing they’ve been asked to do in the bedroom. Why deny yourself that kind of heightened pleasure and enjoyment?

Got a question for me? Email me at msquote2(at)hotmail(dot)com.

Ms. Q