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Ms. Q & A: She Hates to Swallow

Dear Ms. Q,

A few weeks ago I swallowed my boyfriend’s cum for the first time ever. Let’s say it was a really wild night and I was up to trying it. He loved it. I thought it was gross and disgusting. I hated the taste and the texture of it was even worse.

Now he wants it all the time. It’s all he talks about. When we watch porn together, he gets so excited when he sees a girl swallowing a guy’s cum. I told him I don’t like it, but then he tells me, “I go down on you, don’t I?” I think he’d rather have that than actual intercourse. It’s gotten to a point that I don’t even want to have sex with him anymore.

I want to make him happy, but I want to be happy, too. What would you do?

Tasty Tina

Dear Tina,

I’m really on the fence on what I’d recommend to you since I enjoy swallowing my partner’s cum when I go down on him. I love his reaction and appreciation when I do it for him, but there are some big differences: I don’t go down on him every time we have sex, he doesn’t demand it, and he has never played the tit-for-tat game with me. I also don’t know how old the both of you are or how long you’ve been together. A mature man, whether he’s 25 or 65, would understand and respect that there are some sex acts you don’t enjoy and would want sex to be just as satisfying for you as it is for him. He should also know that not everything that goes on in porn videos are truthful and accurate depictions of what most women do and enjoy during sex.

On the other hand, I can see why swallowing during oral sex is so exciting for him. Not many women do it; only about 17-24% do based on the statistics I’ve found, so I can see why this might be such a big thrill for him. Perhaps he’s not intentionally pressuring you; maybe he’s just enthusiastic about enjoying something that has rarely happened to him, if at all.

I also get the sense that you want to please your guy by swallowing, but not all the time. There are some things you and he can do to make swallowing less icky.

When you can tell that he’s ready to cum in your mouth, take his cock in as far as it can go in your mouth. The more of his cum that shoots down your throat avoids having it come in contact with the taste buds on your tongue and that funky, creamy feeling inside of your mouth.

I’ve also heard that there are some foods affect the taste of cum. Fruits like papaya, cranberries, melons, mangoes, apples, grapes and pineapple reportedly make cum taste sweeter. Parsley, wheat grass and celery supposedly make cum taste sweeter, too. Drinking lots of water (about 1-2 liters) can help flush out toxins from offending foods like red meat, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, broccoli, cauliflower, asparagus, garlic and onions.

Whatever you and your guy find to be a good balance in your sexual repertoire, I’m sure there are a number of other things the two of you enjoy. If not swallowing often turns out to be a deal breaker for him, then consider it a sign of bigger problems with him and your relationship.

Ms. Q

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