Relationship Ramblings

Music Porn: Women I Wish I Could (Rock and) Roll With

It was before two in the morning in a mid-August evening. It was time for last call, but my lover and I were in bed on the second floor of a charming B&B. I was loud and should have been concerned with waking the guests in the other rooms. Neither of us were aware of the time or place we were in that night until things quieted down and noticed that the windows of our room were left open – windows that faced the parking lot of a road house behind the B&B.

At first I was horrified. I was sure that anyone walking out to their cars could hear my screams. Then we started laughing. Hard. And then the only thing I could think about was the hum and the first chords that led into Bonnie Raitt’s Something to Talk About.


When I was younger, I fantasized about being a rock star even though I never learned to play anything other than piano and violin, and my amateur vocal career never went beyond choir in middle school. There was something so sexy and empowering about the thought of being a female rock star – like Chrissie Hynde of The Pretenders belting out Message of Love or Pat Benatar tearing out men’s hearts with songs like Heartbreaker or Debbie Harry of Blondie making some bold moves with Call Me.

Today, the list of women who really rock is still pretty short and the list of female rockers who can set the tone for me to want to rock it out hard and heavy with a man is even shorter, but it’s pretty profound.

Bonnie Raitt is definitely on the top of that list, and in addition to Something to Talk About, Thing Called Love is right up there with those songs that makes me want to take charge. In the same vein, I put Melissa Etheridge on the top of my list with I’m the Only One and Come to My Window, too. I have to give Aretha Franklin, AKA the Queen of Soul, some props, as well, for how she kicked out Rock Steady back in the early ‘70’s.

If I were younger and had the libido I do now, I’d definitely want to be Duffy singing the lyrics of Mercy.

I love you
But I gotta stay true
My morals got me on my knees
I’m beggin’ please
Stop playin’ games

I don’t know what this is
Cause you got me good
Just like you knew you would

I don’t know what you do
but you do it well
I’m under your spell.

Or maybe I can let those lyrics rock and roll in my head the next time I’m getting loud with my lover.