Adult Sex Ed

Premature Ejaculation: How to Make the Love Last Longer

AGWDM premature ejaculation 620 featuredWe’re not perfect. Our bodies aren’t perfect. And I think it’s a shame that so many men get shamed and rejected because they come and are done as soon as the party is just getting started.

Premature ejaculation is something that occurs in 30% of men, and there are ways to put off climaxing too early.

In Anticipation of a New Partner or if it’s Been a Long Time Since You’ve Had Sex
It’s tough to contain your arousal and excitement when the sexual chemistry between you and a new partner is strong or if there’s a lot of sexual tension and anticipation that’s been building up for days or weeks.

Do some controlled masturbation for a few days before the big event. Take time visualizing what you would like to take place when you’re with your partner to every last detail from foreplay to climax. Masturbate in a dark, quiet, and relaxing place. Turn off the TV, especially if porn is on the tube. If you like music, keep it slow and soft in the background. Breathe slowly and deeply; think of breathing as a metronome for your penis as well as the rest of your body. Make this kind of masturbation a meditative experience.

Slow Down Your Masturbation Routine
Often times, premature ejaculation comes from being in the habit of masturbating too quickly. A lot of men get into this habit over many years by trying to get off before Mom, a roommate, or kids walk into a room. Find a time and a place when you can have some alone time. Get a lock for your bedroom door if you don’t have one. If you live with other people in your house, tell them that you need a short nap and don’t want to be disturbed. Follow the masturbation tips above.

Partner Up with Your Partner
Identify the triggers that make you come too quickly and discuss them with your partner before you have sex. If you feel an urge to come, tell your partner to stop, slow down, or do something else. Incorporate some foreplay techniques that aren’t focused on or avoid contact with the penis like tantric massage. This will take some practice, but over time, you’ll get adjusted to a new rhythm and find some other fun things to bring into your sex routine
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Desensitizing Sprays
Use what your dentist uses to numb your gums, lidocaine. Lidocaine (and sometimes benzocaine) is the main ingredient in desensitizing sprays and lubes. Spray a tiny bit on the head and main vein of the penis before getting your sexy time on. Make sure the liquid is fully absorbed into your skin before penetrating your partner.

Check to see if your desensitizing spray is condom safe. They usually are. If you feel burning or stinging on your penis, don’t use it.

Condom Sense
If you wear condoms, there are condoms with benzocaine inside of them so that the active ingredient won’t transfer to your partner.

If you don’t want a condom with benzocaine, wear a thicker condom to curb an overly sensitive penis. They’re usually labeled “extra strength”. Never double up on condoms to make up the difference. It’s not the kind of friction you want in your sexual experience.

Talk to Your Doc
If any of these tips don’t work, talk to your doctor. He or she may be able to identify a treatable ailment that’s getting in the way of the quality of your erections. There’s also some thought that selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) antidepressants like Prozac and Zoloft can be used to treat premature ejaculation.