Adult Sex Ed

Taking the Job Out of Blow Jobs

AGWDM taking the job out of blow jobsI wrote about how to give the best blow job ever a couple of years ago. It’s been the top article on my blog ever since. But when I looked back on the original article, I felt it was lacking a lot of specific details at least to my standards. I love going down on Parrot. He’s a very receptive and responsive recipient, which makes giving him head all the more fun for me.

So what’s the secret of taking the job out of blow job? Here are some of my favorite tips…

– As your man is getting undressed, lie on the bed with your head where your feet usually go, rather than perched on the pillows. As he walks toward the bed, slide down so your head is hanging over the bed, grab his buttocks, and take his penis into your mouth. Your head should be off the bed as you give him oral sex upside down. He’s ultimately in control of the thrusting, but you can use your hands as a guide to speed him up or slow him down. Not only does this look sexy, but it also opens your throat wide so you can take in more of him without gagging.

– Lift his penis to expose his testicles, then find the tiny, sometimes darker line that runs up between them. Start a long lick from the underside of his testicles and continue very slowly to the tip of his penis.

– Cover your teeth with your lips and then take as much of his penis in your mouth as you can in one movement. You don’t have to deep throat him; just let him see his penis disappear rapidly. If he really likes for you to go down deep, aim his penis downward instead of toward the back of your mouth. If it takes you a while to master that move, try using an oral sex spray to help numb your throat.

– Use one hand to hold the base of the penis and let saliva pool in your mouth to keep your tongue slippery. Make a loose fist with your other hand, lube it up, and slide it up and down his penis, closing it when you reach the head. Get the hand motion right first, then add your mouth, letting your hand act as an extension of it. Create a snug vacuum with your mouth as if it’s a tight vagina and then slide up and down with your hand following your mouth.

– Spice up any oral technique by adding some “twist and swirl” action with your tongue. The combination of firm fingers and a soft tongue feels fantastic, and it’s easy to master. As if you’re using your hand to masturbate him, twist it slightly once it reaches the head. At the same time, swirl the flat of your tongue around the rim of the head.

– Use a tensed tongue to flick on his frenulum, the band of skin between his head and the foreskin or shaft, or make like a butterfly and flutter the flat surface of your tongue on it.

– A nickel- to quarter-sized dollop of flavored lube will make sucking much more fun and enjoyable as well as keeping his shaft slippery if you alternate between playing his skin flute with your mouth and your hands.

– Keep your tongue moving. Alternate between active, slow and sensual tongue moves. Think of giving a blow job as something like playing free-form jazz or even a symphony. Changing the tempo as you go along keeps things interesting and more fun for givers as well as receivers.

– Don’t just limit your attention to his shaft while going down on him. Some guys like when the person sucking them off pulls down tight on the penis at the base of the shaft. Or try cupping or massaging his balls. Don’t neglect licking and sucking his balls, too.

– Perineum, prostate and anal play are great ways to double up on the wow factor during fellatio. Stick a finger, dildo, anal plug or prostate massager up his ass while you’re giving his shaft some mouth or tongue action. If you or he aren’t big fans of anal play, press on his perineum to stimulate his prostate gland for an extra orgasmic jolt.

– Men are totally into visuals. Bob your head up and down when you’re going down on him.

– Eye contact is hot, too, and something I’ll admit that I totally forget about when I’m focused on giving oral pleasure.

– Humming and moaning are hot for men, too, especially for the vibration.

– If he’s squirming and trying to hump your face, do more of whatever you’re doing. Listen to what he wants, even if it means discerning the changes in his moans, body movements and any other non-verbal cues.

– No matter what techniques you use, make sure that you complete the job. In other words, don’t quit or peter out before he’s had a chance to come.

Several of the men I’ve talked to over the years about giving head have said one of the things they enjoy most is when their partner enjoys giving oral sex. Be an animal and not a machine. Giving great oral sex isn’t all about technique. Enthusiasm goes a long way, too.