There are risks and rewards of getting chummy with people I like and come across online. Bonnie Gayle, the founder of Sex Butter, is one of those people. She told me about how she wanted to create something that was body-safe and would allow her and others to keep enjoying sex during menopause and beyond. I like her personally and love the way she thinks and had the power and courage to become a sex entrepreneur. After chatting a bit on Facebook and Twitter, she asked if I would review Sex Butter. I enthusiastically agreed.
Sex Butter has so many of the ingredients I love in skin care ingredients – shea, cocoa, coconut, jojoba, grapeseed and peppermint oils – and they’re all organic. I’m not sure what the “proprietary lend of essential oils” are, but after a seven-day test on my vulva and my hand, the combination is definitely works as a skin rejuvenator. Women, especially those with dry skin, will love it. I’m sure men who want a buttery soft penis will love it, too. I can pretty safely say that peppermint oil is in there. It smells like the leaves were plucked off a plant in a garden and went straight to a kitchen to be chopped. And just in case you’re wondering, it’s edible.
Sex Butter works wonderfully as a lube. Its semi-solid consistency melts quite nicely on body temperature and has a heavenly guide that’s not too slippery, drippy, messy or oily.
However, Sex Butter is not for everyone. Since it’s an oil-based lubricant, it’s not compatible with condoms and a hell of a mess to clean off sex toys. (Note: I used a condom over a dildo vibrator on its last legs for ease of cleaning. I didn’t notice any damage to the condom, but I don’t recommend taking a chance with a partner.)
Those are exceptions I and others would gladly work around. However, there are two big faults with Sex Butter that I can’t overlook. I hope they’re faults that can be remedied at some point.
First is the packaging. I love the pomade style container. It’s classy and stylish. However, I’m really squeamish about reinserting my fingers in a product that’s going into and onto sexual body parts. No matter how clean I (or my lover) keep my hands clean, there’s too much risk of transferring bacteria into the lubricant that’s in the container. Heaven forbid I should have a vaginal yeast or bacterial infection I’m not aware that’s brewing. A squeeze tube would be great for Sex Butter.
Also, the price is way too steep. I’m willing to pay a bit more for a quality lube, but $39.95 is way over the top, especially for only ½ ounce of lube.
Somehow, some way, there has to be a way for Sex Butter to succeed. I hope to see that happen.