Toys in the Boudoir

Looking Good in Lingerie Over 50

A few weeks ago I put a call out to lingerie PR people asking for suggestions and tips for sizzling, sexy and romantic lingerie styles for women over 50. Of the 10 responses I got (minus one suggestion I pulled out for a review because it’s technically not lingerie but it’s that cool), this was the best one.

Seriously, lingerie manufacturers! A sack of a chemise that hides the female form from the rib cage to just below the knees in a moisture-wicking fabric? The problem isn’t menopausal hot flashes. And even if some 50-ish women are having hot flashes, it doesn’t mean they’re otherwise frigid.

But at the same time, sexy, sensual women over 50 don’t want to dress like 19-year-old pole dancers. (Okay, maybe just a little.)

So I decided to raid Little Shop of O’s lingerie closet to find some styles I really like for grown up women and explain why I like them.


I love corsets for a ton of reasons. The cut and boning give any woman an hourglass figure even if she doesn’t have one and the laces in the back provide a custom fit. This plum corset in particular is made with a plush microfiber that forms to the body and not against it. The gold floral design underneath the breasts also give the illusion of an hourglass shape. Black may be the go-to color for panties and garters, but the gold is so distinctive. This set is proof that a woman of any size can be lady on the streets and a hussy between the sheets.

And who says you have to stop wearing leather or leather looks after a certain age? Try this faux leather corset dress or this rhinestone studded faux leather corset top. Stretch PVC does wonders for accentuating the positive and comfortably holds things in place. Dare to wear this corset out on the town. Throw on a pair of skinny jeans, a pair of spiky knee-high black leather boots, and you are more than good (or bad) to go. When you look this fierce, no one is going to argue with you about your sense of style. They’ll only be jealous that you have the confidence to wear this.

Tip: If you have full hips, avoid corsets that flare out from the waist and land at the fullest part of the hips. Look for corsets that are cut just below the waistline. Show off those curves and be damn proud of them!


Bustiers are close (kissing?) cousins to corsets but aren’t as restrictive to wear if boning is uncomfortable. Like corsets, bustiers are cut and sewn to fake out an hourglass shape. They also tend to have padding, underwire support and adjustable straps to give the girls a lift like this pink paisley lace set.


Chemises don’t have to be the most modest of lingerie styles. This purple satiny chemise has so much going for it. The black lace trim doesn’t just add some tasteful spice, but the trim underneath the bustline keeps the fabric flowing over a woman’s shape instead of ballooning out or shrouding the body like a tent. Plus, it keeps the breasts nicely proportioned. So does the V-neckline. This plus-size chemise also comes in hot pink.

If you’re looking for a chemise (or corset or bustier) with an extra slimming effect, look for one that has a black or dark contrasting color insert on the sides like this light pink and black chemise. It’s a great fool the eye trick.


Dare to go just a wee bit shorter with a babydoll. I love this dark blue satin and black lace babydoll because it’s oh-so classy and the color and fabric contrast and proportion balance creates a long, lean form. And how much more beautifully can you package and present a set of breasts than in that beautiful black lace?

Boy Shorts
There’s nothing boy-ish at all about boy shorts. They fit and flatter almost any figure while providing coverage but not too much coverage. Plus covering up ample tummies, hips and butts don’t hide anything. If anything, full coverage panties make them look bigger. I love these panties for the purple lace fabric and the crisscross lace-up trim. And they’re crotchless and also come in blue, pink, white, black and red in women’s and plus sizes.

Things to Look for and Avoid

All-over lace, sheer, fishnet and fence net fabrics. Generally speaking, garments like these don’t flatter anyone of any age. Not even the models that wear them.

Plunging V-Necks. Unless you have a pair of silicone boobs that were surgically implanted to defy gravity, there’s nothing sexy about breasts that fall out of an otherwise beautiful package. V-necklines that hit below the bottom of the rib cage look like a partially wrapped present. The anticipation and mystery are gone.

Get sized. Your body has shifted and changed over the years. Knowing your proper bra size and recommended style will make all the difference in the world in how you look and carry yourself covered or uncovered.

Attitude. Nothing is sexier than wearing a sexy attitude.

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